At some point in life, every man reaches a crossroads

“Choosing the Man I Am” is an invitation to pause and ask an important question:

Who am I when I stop trying to be who everyone else expects me to be?

This retreat is not about becoming a different man. It is about remembering, reclaiming, and consciously choosing the man you already are beneath the conditioning, fear, performance, and self-doubt.

Over this immersive weekend, you will be guided through a series of experiences designed to help you:

• Reflect on the man you have been.

• Recognise the beliefs and patterns that no longer serve you.

• Reconnect with your body, emotions, and inner wisdom.

• Explore your values, desires, boundaries, and purpose.

• Build authentic connections with other men.

• Step into greater self-acceptance, integrity, and personal responsibility.

• Choose how you want to show up in your life moving forward.

Through guided conversations, bodywork, movement, breath work, ritual, nature, touch, reflection, and brotherhood, you will have the opportunity to experience yourself beyond the stories you have carried.

This is not about perfection.

It is not about fixing yourself.

It is not about becoming more masculine, successful, spiritual, or attractive.

It is about becoming more fully yourself.

The retreat culminates in a personal rite of passage where each man is invited to consciously choose the qualities, values, and way of being he wishes to embody as he moves forward in life.

Whether you are navigating a life transition, seeking greater authenticity, longing for deeper connection, or simply wanting to spend time with other men committed to growth, this weekend offers a safe and supportive space to explore who you are becoming.

• What do I truly want from this next chapter of my life?

• Which parts of me am I ready to release?

• What kind of partner, father, son, friend, leader, or man do I want to be?

• How can I live with greater honesty, courage, and freedom?

• What would happen if I stopped pretending and started choosing?

• Feel stuck between who they were and who they are becoming.

• Desire more authenticity and self-acceptance.

• Are navigating change, loss, transition, or uncertainty.

• Want deeper connection with themselves and other men.

• Are ready to explore personal growth through both mind and body.

• Wish to live with greater purpose, integrity, and presence.

The man you are becoming is not waiting somewhere in the future.

He is already here.

The invitation is simply to choose him.

Choosing the Man I Am
A weekend of reflection, embodiment, brotherhood, and conscious choice.

We will discuss Erotic Embodiment, as opposed to Satisfying Sexual Wants.

We will explore all seven of Man’s highest attributes. All of these are needed to fully re-connect.

We will be using targeted exercises, art work, various meditations, cuddling, holding the space for another person, ceremonies and rituals to find where in your life you are at this moment.

Where is your heart space? What is important in your life?

Be prepared to do solo work sustained by the group, but with duos and trios and group work throughout.

An open mind. A sarong, beach towel, hand towel, sandals, walking shoes and toiletries, we will forward you a more complete list once you’ve purchased a ticket.

Comfortable, loose clothes or sarong during the retreat and something warm for the evenings. During the retreat, we request that you refrain from using perfumes or deodorants.

No previous experience of massage, yoga or bodywork is needed but would be an advantage eg. Aquabliss or a Massage Exchange

Nudity will be part of the progression of the re – treat. The True Self is free and without identity. Clothing, labels and technology mask our True Self. We, therefore, invite you, if you feel comfortable, to shed these layers or masks and experience the weekend with no restrictions.

This event is open to men regardless. Often we can give ourselves a hard time on how we think we look to others, and this is an opportunity to go beyond that, to be vulnerable and to let others accept you just as you are. With open hearts, with an openness to accept everybody, let the magic of touch take you to new parts of yourself you never knew existed. Read more if you have any more questions.

*ZAR 5 800-00 per person (A concession for South African citizens only apply after we receive application form) – venue, lodging and food prices are based on 2026 in Gauteng.

** Please note – different prices in different areas and venues

All inclusive* retreat experience includes:

• Lodging – 2 nights

• Food and Beverage (soft drinks and juice) – Vegan and vegetarian meals are available on request

• All retreat activities, classes and teachings

• *Airfare and transport to and from retreat venue are not included

We strive to deliver a fully inclusive weekend with all details attended to. You simply show up and enjoy.

Different payment options are available: 

• Local & Forex Cash Accepted

• EFT (Bank Transfer) ZAR or Euro

• PayPal (5% handling fee will be charged)

• Credit Card (5% handling fee will be charged)

The full schedule is yet to be published, but check out a sample schedule from a Saturday last year below.
Dependent on weather, we will also have a fun in the rock pool – naked.

Week-end retreat starts on the Friday 15:00 – Sunday lunch time – Registration starts from 15:00 on Friday (Sometimes we ad a combo retreat and the duration might be longer)

No previous experience of massage, yoga or bodywork is needed.

Safe parking and the facility is accessible with a normal car that is not too low.

There are no prerequisites for this Retreat, and you are most welcome to try any other events: